Helping family can be meaningful, but support becomes stressful when every request feels urgent and there is no boundary around what one household can afford.
Decide what you can sustainably give
Base support on your real budget, savings and obligations rather than on what relatives assume income abroad should make possible.
Separate recurring support from emergencies
A regular amount for an agreed purpose is easier to plan than a stream of unrelated requests presented as emergencies.
Ask for clarity without turning every request into an audit
For larger commitments, it is reasonable to understand the purpose, amount, timing and whether other family members are contributing.
Remember that saying no can protect long-term support
Overextending yourself can eventually make all support impossible. Boundaries can preserve the relationship and your ability to help over time.
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